How do I relate to myself?

I believe, the best state of being, is when one is with oneself, and with no other preoccupations. For example, I would like to cultivate a state, always, which is like sitting cross legged alone in a room, being preoccupied with nothing in particular, but being preoccupied in the most general manner possible. In this state, perhaps, there is meditation. The state mentioned above, refers to a mental state of being, instead of a physical state of being.